E-Motivate

Yes it’s time for “be a victim 101″ and I hope you are ready for your lesson. Be warned, some of this content may be just a tad personal, hysterical, and damn right tactless, but what the heck lets get into then shall we?

Lesson One: Give away your personal Power

This is the first and most important in the lessons of staying a victim. This will set the course for your future in this role and if you can get this down pact, your sure to be a winner.

Giving away personal power can involve almost all of your life if you want it to. Had a stink upbringing - blame your parents. Didn’t get the right job, blame your parents for not pushing you at school. Got bullied in the play ground, blame yourself for being, not big enough, tall enough, smart enough, or tough enough. Too fat? Blame your parents for your bad eating habits or your big bones. Got into a bad relationship? Blame your partner for not giving you what you want. Think your too dumb, beat yourself up about it, do nothing and blame everybody else for your situation in life.

Lesson Two: Have a Pity Party

Ahh pity parties, don’t you just love them. You can have them any day or night and you don’t even have to invite anybody if you wish. They go something like this.

“hmm, should I apply for that job? But what if I get turned down? Then I will feel really stink that I told four people about it and I will look silly and I am silly already, and probably not smart enough anyhow to even apply for the job. Just like the other day when all those people were talking about that stuff that I didn’t understand. I’m so dumb, I just couldn’t say anything. Maybe it was the outfit I was wearing, I probably looked really fat and like a total looser. I might as well have a big L painted on my forehead because all I ever to is attract crap into my life. Especially when it comes to relationships, they are either non existent or complete weirdo’s. I don’t think that anyone will ever love me. I will go all my life with out love. That’s how it seems to go, everybody leaves, no one wants to be with me cause I suck and I am stupid!!!

(Break out the champagne and miniature violins!)

Lesson Three: Let Your Troubles be your Theme Song.

Scene 1: Your at a dinner party with friends and you meet someone new. It goes something like this:

Bob: Hey you, how is it going? How long have you known Bill and Ben?

You: Hi, oh about 3 years, but I have been out of touch with them since my abusive relationship, mental breakdown, anxiety, loss of job and relationship breakup. How long have your known them for?

Bob: Is that the gravy burning?

Scene 2: Your co-worker asks innocently how you are, you say:

“oh well, you know how it is… still struggling with life, it is an effort every day but there is nothing I can do about it, just got to grin and bare it. But you know, I will manage somehow, not really sure how but I will survive”

Lesson Four: Thou Artful Dodger

After singing your troubles to all in sundry, you can expect some interference from others who (by their nosy nature) will try and fix things for you. It will go something like this:

You: I just can’t seem to get interested about anything…..nothing makes me happy. I should just curl up and die….

Annoying fixit person: “Well why don’t you go do a course.”

You: “I’m too afraid to leave the house.”

Annoying fixit person: “You can do study extramural.”

You: “I can’t afford it.”

Annoying fixit person: “Work and Income can help you with study or there is a student loan.”

You: “I can’t afford the extra bus fare to Work and Income.”

Annoying fixit person: “I can take you in my car.”

You: “But I have claustrophobia, can’t do small spaces.”

Annoying fixit person: siiiggghhh

You: (he he victory, now go away!)

Lesson Five: Be a People Pleaser

Well this is an easy one. Just say yes, yes, yes and yes to everyone. Saying no is not in your repartee. Because saying no would just make you feel guilty, and we can’t have that now can we? Say yes to everyone, and then blame them later for feeling used. This then takes you back to lesson one - giving away personal power. And once this is achieved you can go through to lesson two - having a pity party, feeling sorry for yourself and indulging in your own sorrow. Of course having a pity party alone can be somewhat boring so you are best to search out someone to relay your troubles to, hence moving right into lesson three - Let your troubles be your theme song. So once your have found some willing ears to indulge with, go for it! Purge all of your blame and negativity onto this (unfortunate) person. Sing your song and shed some tears if you must. Who can blame you? Everyone just uses you don’t they? They are all mean users! You are such a good person and such a giving person, and you cannot understand why time after time people just walk all over you. You might as well have DOORMAT tattooed on your forehead right? Because people pleasers always get walked over.

So, after some woe is me singing you will then find your self at lesson four - thou artful dodger. Yes your troubles are now at the hands of the annoying fixit person. You only wanted them to listen right? You didn’t actually want any constructive criticism did you? Of course not, but you will get it and you will think of everything in your power to avoid or accept their helpful suggestions. Why? Because you are a victim. Your world is a safe place, and it is safe because you do not have to move from it. Never ever, ever. You can bask in the sun of your glorious comfort, never moving an inch to change things and accepting that life just “happens” to you. You, of course never make it happen. Stay in the box of victim, slap on some sticky tape a “fragile” sticker and stay there. It might get a little dusty and dark, but what the heck, no one can challenge you can they? No one can find you here. It is SAFE. You have given away your personal power, wallowed in your own self pity and purged yourself to all and sundry. The end result? Anger and criticism of everyone else especially your self. No moving forward in life. And an inner bitterness and negativity that will haunt you forever.

It’s great being a victim isn’t it?

“Is that the gravy burning?”

Sharleen

Mind power is not something that is easy to learn about. There are many courses conducted at educational institutions that position you to work in a certain career field but no real courses that help you to better utilize your own inherent creative powers. Sure there are books about the power of positive thinking and using affirmations to attract what you want but these approaches are somewhat shallow and limited. To have the highest and best chance for creating your personal reality you need knowledge and practical exercises that can help you to better understand and put your mind power to use. The following tips provide some practical guidelines for using your mind for constructive use.

Tip #1: The subconscious mind thinks in terms of images. When speaking to your subconscious mind is important to use clear imagery. You should avoid using words that are difficult to understand or could create confusion. Your subconscious self is like a naïve, innocent child that will believe what it images and serves to cause things to occur according to the way you image them.

Tip #2: You are your own source of creative action when it comes to creating your desired reality. Inaction, laziness or blind acceptance of adverse conditions set you up to operate within the confines of an environment created by others. Your desire for something better requires a conscious awareness to do something about it. Desire creates the drive to begin to take charge of your life and to work persistently and consistently towards that which is desired.

Tip #3: Don’t live in the past. If you focus and attach your expectations to past age energies and beliefs having lower vibration rates than those of today and tomorrow, your spiritual evolution may be adversely retarded because the vibration rate of past age beliefs are out of sync with the present day higher vibration rate of the earth and its biosphere of beliefs and consciousness. Always look positively to the future and don’t dwell on negative past events.

Tip #4: A central core belief and knowledge are different things. Belief is not knowledge and knowledge is not belief. They are closely associated, but not one and the same. Be very careful to always discern the difference between each.

Tip #5: Thought and mind have an intricate relationship. Thought is the blue printer and mind is the builder. Intensive thought creates the blueprint that mind the builder employs to design, structure and engineer the reality desired for manifestation. It is essential that one’s thoughts, one’s thinking be pure, clear, healthy and wholesome living experience realities. It is important to carefully observe and control the nature of one’s inner thoughts. One’s inner talk becomes an automatic blueprint for the manifestation of one’s outer walk of living experience.

Tip #6: Keep a journal for your goals and record the action that you take towards manifesting those goals. This should also include details for any necessary training, equipment or steps that need to be taken to realize that goal. Visualization of your goals is also an important exercise that should comprise your creative action of working towards that desired.

Tip#7: Engage in a regular exercise program. Exercise helps to keep off weight, helps you to sleep better and raises your energy levels. You’ll be more alert and productive during your day to day routine. The endorphins released during exercise assist you to feel better and definitely helps to maintain a positive attitude towards life.

We are blessed to have such powerful minds to put to work for us. Unfortunately, our minds tend to end up getting a much bigger role than they should. This can cause us to be held to the same old comfortable reality, which I imagine, you would probably like to see improvements in!

Our logical mind has a definite purpose, it can figure things out, it can plan, it can analyze, figure out how to make things work, figure out how to implement a plan. These are all wonderful things that help us in our day to day life.

But the logical mind is just that, logical. It does what “makes sense”.

And just what makes sense to the logical mind? What has worked in the past. What it has seen work for others.

Hmm, let’s see, so if you are making decisions and living your life with your logical mind in charge, what could the future possibly look like?

Same as the past!!!

And is that what you want? I’m guessing no. We are always growing and expanding and with that comes the desire for more. That is a natural part of this life and it is a good thing.

So how can you prevent your logical mind from holding you back like this?

It helps to see it from a bigger perspective. You see, if the mind had the perspective of the soul it would have a much bigger picture of your life and of what is possible. It would not look to the past to see what to do. It would see the potential and move forward.

But the logical mind does not see this big picture. It only sees what is and what has been.

So if you are wanting to take your life to a new level, to break into wonderful new territory do you really want to be putting your logical mind in charge?

I don’t think so.

So how do you deal with this? Who is in charge then?

You.

You are not your mind. Your mind is a tool you have available to you.

And you have the ability to access higher information through your intuition. You can receive guidance from a higher part of yourself that sees the big picture.

It is up to you to choose how you make decisions in your life. From the logical mind, or maybe based on a higher knowing. You choose.

That is why your intuition is an important part of this journey to your even better life. It is your access to the big picture. And you may never get to see that bigger picture and that doesn’t matter. You just need the insight from the part of you that does see it.

So now it’s time for action! You’ll only get so far with just reading. If you truly want to take your life to a new level, here is an exercise that will help you begin to give your logical mind it’s rightful role and open to a higher wisdom that knows how to take you there. This is a simple yet powerful exercise to help you do this.

Exercise: Self-Awareness, Opening to Higher Wisdom

For this exercise, and in life, it is helpful to see yourself as the observer of your mind. That way you have the true power to decide, rather than just leaving it up to the part of you that only knows the old way.

Get out a piece of paper and a pen. At the top of the paper, write: My Ideal Life.

Then, close your eyes, take a couple deep breaths and allow yourself to begin to imagine what that ideal life might look like. When you really start feeling good, begin to write out a few of the things or experiences that you would like to have, what your ideal life is like. And when you are done, take your list and really look at it. Review your list and ask yourself: “Could I really do this? Could I really have that?”

And see what thoughts come to mind, be honest with yourself, one of the biggest trip ups on this path is to pretend you are more positive than you are, I know this all too well! When you notice these thoughts, write them down not in detail, just the main idea.

Now begin to take a look at these thoughts and ask yourself:

Is this thought telling me why I can’t do it? Is this thought about HOW it can’t happen? Is this thought denying the possibility of it happening?

If so, recognize that it is just your logical mind in it’s limited perspective, seeing only what has been to determine what will be in the future.

Now let’s open this up! Take the negative thoughts you know are from your logical mind and ask the question: “Am I 100% sure that this is true?”

And if you aren’t 100% sure it’s true, ask: “Could it maybe be possible for me to have this thing I want?” And just allow your mind to calm down and open to receiving wisdom from a higher source. This is easy, no need to make it harder than it is. Simply see what new thoughts, images or ideas come up.

You’ve just seen your logical mind in action and opened to a higher wisdom, congratulations! Begin to notice throughout the day these similar thoughts that tie you to the past. Question these thoughts, “are you 100% sure that it’s true?” and if not, open to a higher possibility.

A powerful skill that can help you break out of the old and into that wonderful life you’ve been envisioning, stopping your logical mind from holding you back from it!

Copyright (c) 2008 Fia Crandall